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There is so much talk about “Toxic Masculinity” these days. Guys my age struggle with this. I was raised with the words “be a man”, coming from my father, society, and my own recollections.
“Being a man” wasn’t a difficult concept to live by. Boys don’t cry was a common mantra. I was encouraged to be strong, to open and hold doors for a woman, to always pick up the check, to not drive off until my date was safely inside. Of course, I was also encouraged to be a lothario.
I witnessed my male counterparts as they cat-called, crotch grabbed, whistled and otherwise made fools out of themselves in front of women. I always knew the line and when it was crossed. I was (and still am) flirty, but not dirty, and I am respectful of women.
In turn, I also have expectations of women to be strong and able to handle themselves. When a man crosses the bridge from flirtatious to inappropriate I expect, and have seen it on many occasions, a woman to put a man in his place. I love those women. There is never an excuse for a man to offer unwanted advances or lay a hand upon a woman.
See, I know that a woman can open her own door. I know that she has her own coat and umbrella on a cold or rainy day. I may not need to follow her home to make sure she is safe. But I still do these things, because that’s how I was raised.
It’s not toxic. It’s part of being a man.
The Tao of Bill 
I hold the door for everyone male or female, young or old. I wait for any of my passengers to get into their houses as well. I don’t know that its a male thing, I think it’s courtesy
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Definitely not a male thing, it is courtesy you are correct
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I agree; it’s just that some men disgrace our gender by forcing themselves on women and some even on children. We have here in Australia the findings of the Mulligan inquiry and the results are quite repugnant. Maybe we all have a monster in us which I find truly scary
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I’d like to think that we can control it but it is scary. Diligence is needed
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indeed !
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Men only stopped being chivalrous when bitches stopped being ladies😉
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Wow. Right on!
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Exactly–it’s just part of being a decent human being:-)
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Chivalry might be dead, but I still hold the doors, offer to help women put their bag in the overhead bin and stuff like that. It is how I was raised, too, and it’s not toxic at all.
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Then I’m in good company
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Who said chivalry was dead?
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Chivalry is almost as dead as the dinosaurs Steve
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I think it depends on one’s age
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definitely
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Good that you do them. I love old-fashioned man (this is actually a compliment).
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I don’t know any other way. Thank you
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A pleasure.
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Perfect! Well said! 😊
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Thanks Walt!
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My pleasure Billy 😊
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